To Reboot is to start again, to reset, to clear certain memory to make it
work properly once again—and then proceed.
Every marriage can benefit from an occasional ‘reboot’. Just like when you reboot your computer, rebooting your marriage can help with ‘trouble-shooting’ when you are experiencing marital difficulties.
Even if your marriage is healthy, a reboot can give it the extra boost it needs to flourish.
*Tip* Every human relationship needs an occasional Reboot! “…in this world we have tribulation…”(John 16:33)—and some of our “tribulation” comes through marriage, families, friendships, neighbors and co-workers!
When We Need to Reboot Our Marriages
There are many reasons for needing a reboot in your marriage. Below are several times when a reboot may be required.
• When we’ve disappointed one another
• When we’ve forgotten important dates—like birthdays or anniversaries
• When we’ve lost our temper or been unkind
Basically, your marriage needs a reboot whenever there is a disconnect. One of the most common relational “disconnects” happens when
one person is disappointed or rejected, upset or irritated—and instead of responding with care or compassion, we give facts or reasons, we give “pep talks” or try to “fix it”—or even worse, we communicate how we’re even more hurt or upset!
How to Reboot Your Marriage
There are different ways to reboot your marriage, but they won’t all work for your unique marriage. You need to find something that works for you and your spouse.
One of the easiest ways to reboot your marriage is as simple as going on a date night. You can go to a local Christian event (like this one), the movies, out to dinner, or anything else you and your spouse enjoy.
BONUS: Read ‘3 Reasons Christian Couples Need a Date Night’ to find out how a date night can change your marriage.
Depending on the stage of life you are in, you might find certain activities more appealing than others. Here are several stages in marriage and corresponding recommended ways to reboot your marriage:
• When the honeymoon stage subsides, a second honeymoon
• After children come along, a weekend away is recommended
• When the “nest” is empty, a cruise can often be just what you need
A reboot can do wonders for your marriage. Do what you can do to help your marriage stay healthy and trust God to take care of the rest.